Pushing the rest button
Mom's court date has come and gone and we're no closer to knowing how this will end. It seems they reset the hearing. I"m not clear on the details because, frankly, they don't make sense, but Mom has to go back in June. I'm so ready for this to be over. So. Ready.
Despite having no closure on the court case, I'm pushing forward. Mom has to go.
Yes, after all of the stressing I've been doing over Adam kicking her out, I'm the one that told her that she can't live here long-term. My plan is solid, even if waiting is not my strong suit.
In my head she'll save her money, buy a car and then find a low-income place to live. That's not exactly how she's reacting. She's acting like I said that she has to be out next week. There's all this crying and exaggerating and I'm getting pretty annoyed by it. If she keeps this up, yes, I will create a deadline and she won't like it.
Anyway, I looked in to getting her Section 8 housing, but, unfortunately, there's no money for that kind of thing and the office isn't taking applications until September. I told her that I was perfectly willing to wait until she could get on the list and find a place she can afford. In the meantime she could be saving for a car. (Those housing lists are long and she could be on one for a year, or more, easily. She was *supposed* to have put herself on the list when she moved here from Alabama, but never did it.) Even though I've done what I can to reassure her that I'm not pushing her out, she's overreacting. Mom is hounding her friends to give her applications to local places that she can't afford. She's glossing over the whole car thing. It's my opinion that it's my punishment for wanting to have my own life.
I'm trying not to be too guilty about this. I know that Mother's Day is coming up and I should try and suppress all of this anger and let Mom enjoy the day, but it isn't going to happen. If I wait for the "right time" to take charge of this situation it will never be the right time.
Despite having no closure on the court case, I'm pushing forward. Mom has to go.
Yes, after all of the stressing I've been doing over Adam kicking her out, I'm the one that told her that she can't live here long-term. My plan is solid, even if waiting is not my strong suit.
In my head she'll save her money, buy a car and then find a low-income place to live. That's not exactly how she's reacting. She's acting like I said that she has to be out next week. There's all this crying and exaggerating and I'm getting pretty annoyed by it. If she keeps this up, yes, I will create a deadline and she won't like it.
Anyway, I looked in to getting her Section 8 housing, but, unfortunately, there's no money for that kind of thing and the office isn't taking applications until September. I told her that I was perfectly willing to wait until she could get on the list and find a place she can afford. In the meantime she could be saving for a car. (Those housing lists are long and she could be on one for a year, or more, easily. She was *supposed* to have put herself on the list when she moved here from Alabama, but never did it.) Even though I've done what I can to reassure her that I'm not pushing her out, she's overreacting. Mom is hounding her friends to give her applications to local places that she can't afford. She's glossing over the whole car thing. It's my opinion that it's my punishment for wanting to have my own life.
I'm trying not to be too guilty about this. I know that Mother's Day is coming up and I should try and suppress all of this anger and let Mom enjoy the day, but it isn't going to happen. If I wait for the "right time" to take charge of this situation it will never be the right time.
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